There is no shame in trying, but there is a big problem if you don’t even give yourself a chance. When reflecting on 2016, I began to think about the reasons why I didn’t take some chances; the common thread was fear. Fear of failing, fear of getting hurt, fear of letting someone down, fear of losing and the list can go on and on. This “cup half empty” mentality leads us to focus on what we don’t have and completely ignore what we do already have. At the end of the year, we reflect on the 365 days that we’ve left behind and although it is good to engage in self-reflection, it must not be to the detriment of the 365 days ahead of us. GRACE is our friend, yet we treat “her” like our enemy. We continue through life dwelling on what could have been and miss all the opportunities that are in front of us. I think Mary Engelbreit put it best when she said, “Don’t look back, you’re not going that way.”
At this time of the year, many of us reassess everything in our life; our relationships, our spiritual life, and our business or workplace. We contemplate all the things we could have done differently to make our relationships more fulfilling or our businesses more profitable. In other words, we beat ourselves down. I want you to repeat after me:
GRACE is my friend!
"But you don't know the whole story……?"
Let me tell you something, beating yourself down for what you didn't get right will only serve to hold you back from becoming the person that you were created to be. Just imagine if a toddler would say to him or herself after falling when trying to take their first steps, "you're a failure, why even try to take another step?" This pessimistic way of thinking would hold that toddler back from walking and eventually becoming independent. The child would not develop and would not grow in other areas of his or her little life. Thankfully, toddlers have us to cheer them on but who is there to cheer for us? We look ahead and see that the sky is the limit but fear makes us question if we should even try. When we stop believing how wonderfully and fearfully we were made, we quickly dismiss what could be.
I urge you to be more childlike and forgive yourself for your past mistakes. Get to a point where you can see beyond the fog of your failures and across the horizon to the light at the end of the tunnel. Give yourself the freedom to make mistakes and grow. Take the weight of guilt off and you'll begin to soar.
Now, repeat after me:
GRACE is my friend!
I love what Friedrich Schiller said once, "Grace is the beauty of form under the influence of freedom".
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